There is always going to be damage caused by being in a toxic relationship whether you are aware of it or not.

I am guessing you didn’t know at the time that you were entering a relationship that it was going to be toxic. The key is to awaken to and recognise the toxicity, realise you are a worthy human being and deserve better and then work sensibly to break it off.

Once you put healthy boundaries in place, you are for sure going to need time to heal. You will need healing to your mind and heart to heal the trauma.

Do not deny it or try to hide from it because it will come back tenfold when you are least expecting it.

Things you can do to come to a place of deep healing

• Close your eyes and cut an invisible energetic cord with the person

• Write about your experience in a journal

• Seek out a psychologist for specialist help

• Use audio medicine such as listening to healing sound vibrations

• Allow yourself to not fill your time being busy. Introduce stillness and white space in your life – e.g. mediation, yoga, sit - learn to enjoy being not doing

• Complete a loving-kindness meditation like Metta Bhavana meditation

• Make yourself a priority

• Surround yourself with good people

• Hold a ritual fire and burn anything resembling the relationship - photos, notes

• Do not rush into another relationship just for some company. Get to know yourself again

• Give permission to yourself to rest and breath. Avoid your automatic response of fight or flight mode

• Be aware of transference - avoid unconsciously redirecting those hurt feelings and memories to your present situation

What else would you suggest for those recovering from trauma caused by toxic relationships? We would love it if you joined the conversation and left a comment below.