How To Relax On Holidays (For The Highly Strung)

I’m writing this for the fellow overthinkers. The go-go-goers. The busy bees and workaholics who struggle with the concept of doing nothing. If the idea of taking a holiday sounds both dreamy and terrifying—this one’s for you.

Because for some of us, the hardest part of a holiday isn’t packing or airports—it’s relaxing once we get there.

The Inner Conflict of “Relaxing”

When you're wired to be productive 24/7, suddenly switching to vacation mode can feel like being dropped into a void. You arrive at your destination, ready to unwind... and then panic. Your brain starts whispering: Shouldn’t you be doing something? Aren’t you wasting time? Is this it?

I’ve been there—struggling to even commit to a holiday, let alone enjoy it. But ironically, we’re the ones who need it the most. A break from the cycle. A new perspective. A reminder that there’s more to life than output and achievement.

Here are a few mindset shifts and simple tips that have helped me learn how to actually relax on holiday (and not come home needing a second one).

1. Don’t Overplan Everything

I used to think, “I'm here—I've got to see and do everything!”
But packing your itinerary from sunrise to midnight leaves zero space for joy, spontaneity, or rest. Instead of feeling fulfilled, I’d feel depleted. My body would be screaming for a break just when I was supposed to be restoring it.

Try this instead: pick one or two things a day, and let the rest unfold naturally. You’ll be surprised how much more you enjoy yourself when you’re not racing against a checklist.

2. Pack a Book, Not Your Laptop

Your out-of-office is on for a reason. Leave the laptop at home—and if you can, the iPad too. Bring a book you’ve been meaning to read. Something that absorbs you, stretches your imagination, or simply entertains you.

When I was in Mongolia with no internet for two weeks, I felt so clear. I could think. But the moment I reconnected and the emails started rolling in? Full-on anxiety. Set boundaries with technology and protect your peace.

3. Eat Foods That Nourish You

Holidays are a chance to indulge—but not just in sweets or cocktails. Think of it as an opportunity to nourish your body with food that makes you feel good. Try fresh local produce, dishes you don’t cook at home, or just savor your meals slowly—without multitasking or screens.

4. Chase Sunrises, Naps & Sunsets

Let go of the guilt and give yourself permission to nap in the afternoon, or crawl back into bed after an early morning stroll. Watch the sunrise, or take time for sunset with a drink in hand. These little pockets of peace can shift everything. They reconnect you to a slower rhythm—one your body might be craving more than you realise.

Relaxation doesn’t always come easily, especially for minds that are always racing. But holidays are a rare chance to hit pause—to give yourself the care, quiet, and perspective you don’t get in the busyness of everyday life.

You deserve to relax. And you don’t have to earn it. The world will keep turning while you breathe, rest, and just be.

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